Written by: Jane
Sat Jul 10 2021
Are you comfortable spending time with friends or relatives who are always nice, smile, and forgiving? By that, I meant genuinely nice and kind. I always appreciate kind-hearted people and have been thriving to be one of them until I was provoked by a line from a drama "being nice only creates distance". In that drama, the elder brother is very considerate of his younger brother, friends, and others around him. But from those people around him, it only reflects the distance and the uncertainty whether or not they are closed with one another.
I started to agree with that to some extent. There is nothing wrong with always being genuinely kind, nice, and caring. However, the drama seemed to reflect the other way around. It turned out that the younger brother felt the distance between their relationship, guilty (because he was always forgiven whenever he did sth wrong), and self-doubt (whether he received sympathy questioning whether he's pitiful or sth). What I perceive is that one's perfect behavior might suppress others instead of inspiring. Another scene from that drama showcased how that man's kindness toward a girl confused her feeling. She thought that he had a feeling for her only to learn later that he's being like that to everyone. BUT IT'S NOT HIS FAULT. Later, when he realized that he indirectly hurt her feeling he apologized to her. But doing that only creates another burden to the girl (no one wants to make others feel guilty esp s.o he/she likes). He's way too considerate but isn't he the lonely one?.
It's perplexing but it's good to know. I want to observe it more in reality. :)